Broken Together
Casting Crowns
What do you think about when you look at me
I know we're not the fairy tale you dreamed we'd be
You wore the veil, you walked the aisle, you took my hand
And we dove into a mystery
How I wish we could go back to simpler times
Before all our scars and all our secrets were in the light
Now on this hallowed ground, we've drawn the battle lines
Will we make it through the night?
It's going to take much more than promises this time
Only God can change our minds
Maybe you and I were never meant to be complete
Could we just be broken together
If you can bring your shattered dreams and I'll bring mine
Could healing still be spoken and save us
The only way we'll last forever is broken together
How it must have been so lonely by my side
We were building kingdoms and chasing dreams and left love behind
I'm praying God will help our broken hearts align
And we won't give up the fight
It's going to take much more than promises this time
Only God can change our minds
Maybe you and I were never meant to be complete
Could we just be broken together
If you can bring your shattered dreams and I'll bring mine
Could healing still be spoken and save us
The only way we'll last forever is broken together
Maybe you and I were never meant to be complete
Could we just be broken together
If you can bring your shattered dreams and I'll bring mine
Could healing still be spoken and save us
The only way we'll last forever is broken together
So once again my post will contain a song. My thought when I first heard this song was that it was written just for me. Looking back over the last 20 years, I’d be a fool to say our marriage is what I’d thought it would be. In part because we were just kids and what we dreamt of was something close to a fairytale. When the reality of marriage is that it’s hard and it hurts. So here is the real and the raw truth of twenty years together.
Brad is my best friend and the one I most neglect and often put last. He is the one that holds my heart, knows my
deepest secrets, and has the ability to hurt me the most. He is the one who has held me through my darkest moments and picked me up when I couldn’t stand alone. He has seen me at my worst and loved me still. He is not perfect, far from it. But he is mine and I am his.
From the start of our marriage he has shown strength and commitment to go the long haul with me even though we’ve wanted to give up, quitting on us was never an option. We’ve faced heartache and joy, anger, stress and happiness, and we’ve leaned on each other through some of life’s greatest losses. We’ve said unkind things to each other and gone to bed mad more than once. But we love fiercely and it is that love that holds us together.
Although the path we are on is so different from what I dreamed, there is no one else I’d rather journey with and I trust the Lord for what lies ahead. If there is anything I’ve learned it’s that I can not be in control and so I trust in God for our future.
I’m thankful for the man that allows me to be broken and walks beside me. And I accept his brokenness as well, knowing full well that we are stronger together. I don’t know what the next twenty years have in store for us, but I know it will be fine with him by my side. Happy 20 Brad, I love you.
